In the minds of most people, tension is a bad thing. It creates a gamut of feelings including stress, discomfort, and uncertainty, so why would anyone welcome it? In most cases, people go out of their way to avoid tension, and for good reason. When you talk to girls, however, the opposite is true. I’m speaking, of course, about sexual…

You can also include a Tease in your Flirt Opener or a minute or two into the conversation to spice things up and create some sexual tension. By the way, the word “tension” is normally not a good thing; it means the situation is uncomfortable. Sexual tension is different. It means there is electricity in the air. She’s curious about…

By the way, the “time constraint” is another tactic you may want to add into your approaches. I have to credit Neil Strauss, author of the sensational book The Game, with this concept since he was the first to write about it although I’ve been using it for many years. The idea behind using a Time Constraint is that you…

These openers are more advanced. They require you to convey two things in a big way: playfulness and confidence. If you use Flirt Openers correctly, they can be extremely effective and fast-track the seduction. You can skip a lot of the “getting to you know you” stuff and take things to a sexual level very fast. Before you use a…

Now I’ll lay out some different types of openers. I don’t suggest memorizing them word-for-word. They are meant to illustrate how and why an effective opener works, and they’re going to be more effective if you “tailor” them a bit to suit your own personality and interests. Women (and people in general) always appreciate a thoughtful compliment. Never tell a…

You want to use an opener that will accomplish four things:   #1 It does not remove her from her “comfort zone.” You never want her to feel threatened or uncomfortable when you approach and start talking to her. #2 It captures her interest and attention (or the attention of the group she’s with) #3 It displays a positive aspect…

Women have a core need to feel secure and protected. You can give her the sense that you are a “protector” by using simple, subtle gestures. Obviously, you’re not going to have the opportunity to demonstrate physical dominance until after you’ve approached and gotten to know her a bit. But I want to mention this while we’re on the subject….

The other aspect of Social Dominance is getting Social Proof from people (besides the buddies you showed up with). Social Proof is a classic sales/advertising concept. Basically, as humans, we form our opinions on things and people according to what other people think of them. This is especially true in consumer culture. Every time a new “trend” sweeps the country…

Sometimes, being the “leader of your tribe” isn’t good enough. You’ve got to be the leader of a tribe that other people want to be a part of. This means, quite simply, that your tribe needs to be cool. A common mistake that guys make, when they study “pickup” and start improving their game, is that they continue to go…

Men are hardwired to feel attraction towards women who have a certain physical appearance, women have “attraction triggers” hardwired into them as well. The good news is that women generally are not going to reject you as a possibility based on your looks. (You do, however, need to be well-groomed and appear to be healthy. If you obviously don’t take…