By the way, the “time constraint” is another tactic you may want to add into your approaches. I have to credit Neil Strauss, author of the sensational book The Game, with this concept since he was the first to write about it although I’ve been using it for many years.

The idea behind using a Time Constraint is that you are putting her at ease by letting her know, up front, that you can’t stay long. One of the biggest “fears” a woman has, when a random guy starts talking to her, is that she’s going to get locked into a long, boring, awkward conversation where the guy keeps talking, and she’s looking for a way out.

Time Constraints will remove this fear from her mind:

“I can only stay for a minute, but I wanted to ask you…”

“I can only talk for a second, my friends just ordered a round of shots, but I had to tell you…”

“I have to go in a second, but real quick, let me ask you where you bought that…”

This can be a very effective method for eliminating that concern from her mind. Of course, if things go well, you can stay and chat with her as long as you like.