How To Get The Girls You Want
The point is: how do you walk back from her corner with her on your arm?
Are you nodding your head in agreement? So are hundreds and thousands of other men. Sort of. But that’s not really the point.
To answer that question, you need to look at a lot of things. It’s not just knowing what to say – it’s also knowing how to say it and what to do next depending on her response. And to be able to master that needs serious work, starting from the inside.
If you’re feeling a little faint of heart right now, you can skip reading the rest of this piece and stay an amateur. Or you can press on and learn what it takes to be that irresistible Pied Piper that the ladies just can’t tear themselves away from.
“Wow, can we skip this part?”
“I already know what I want: my dream girl!”
“I don’t want to go there, man.”
Can you hear yourself saying one of those statements? Face it, you have to have that “inner game” if you want to master how to get girls. There are many studly guys out there who may look the part but don’t know how to act his part or say the right things when in front of the woman they’re attracted to. And you see these not-so-good-looking lads who seem to have no trouble finding a new date.
What’s their secret? It’s knowing what they want in life. And this comes from knowing yourself and what sort of woman would complement you as you are. It helps you be confident and conquer your fears.
When you’re confident with who you are and where you’re headed, you’re likely to develop the right attitude and the ability to take in what others bring to the table.
So, being the guy that you are, what exact sort of woman would float your boat? Looks can only go so far: if it comes with a T. Rex temper, you’d be heading for the hills in no time. List down the traits that you want in your girl and know which ones are negotiable and which are definitely not.
It certainly is good to think of yourself as a great person, but you’d be even better off if you knew why – because then, it’s something that you can use to start a conversation with your lady in red.
Not only that, you’d also know where to find her. If you are looking for that smart, sexy, confident, independent, and mature woman who also knows who she is and what she wants, you know you can’t find her at, say, a strip club.
As you strengthen your inner game, you’d do things that will lead you to the girl of your dreams. You’d also go to places and attend events that she is most likely to go to. Well, it’s not just “she” but they! You get a whole bevy of class A females to choose from.
But how exactly are you gonna “get” them?
Mind Your Body Language
You may be saying something but your hands, arms, or face is not matching your words. Coordinate your thoughts and gestures by practicing – in front of the mirror.
Take a picture of your favorite model, celebrity, or that hot one 4 cubicles down yours at the office and stick it on the mirror at eye level. Run through your best pick up lines and watch what your body does. Listen to your voice too. Do your nerves show? Be thankful it’s just her photo you’re talking to.
Visualizing the whole scenario before you make it happen helps. Just make sure you follow through by rehearsing in private when you’re sober and at home.
Tips from the Pros
To help you get started on the right foot, here are a few things that you can use the next time you go a-hunting or see a woman you like:
- When you spot your type of girl from across the room, make eye contact with her. But don’t stare or make a head to toe assessment last more than 4 seconds. Hold her gaze when you do get to talk to her, especially when you compliment her and say the essential keywords, i.e. beautiful, gorgeous, and sexy.
- Don’t make it too obvious that you’re so into them. Women also like mystery and a bit of challenge. You can sit next to her at a bar and order a drink and maybe put your body so close to hers it’s almost as if you were going to brush against her. You may look at her and smile when she notices this but turn your head to enjoy your drink once more, as if she wasn’t there. But not with a smug expression. She’d be piqued and perhaps strike up a conversation with you.
- When she does talk to you, don’t go all puppy doggy. Remain cool, calm, and collected even as you tease her and make her laugh. When asking for her contact details, don’t make it seem like you’re so available. Throw in the words “maybe” and “might” when you propose to arrange for a date or a reason why she should be giving you her number.
There’s so many fish in the ocean that you shouldn’t be afraid of rejection. Turned down by one? Ask another! Practice makes perfect and helps you be bolder too.