Here’s a clever approach that can be highly effective for a mack. It’s an especially strong ice-breaker if you want to approach a group of females, which is normally an awkward situation. Let’s say you’re in a club and you spot a hammer you want to talk to, butte’s surrounded by three girlfriends. You walk up to them, flashing a friendly smile, and you say… “Hey, I have to get back to my buddies in a minute, I just need to get a quick female perspective on something…” Now, you tell them a quick story and get their opinion on it. (Don’t lurk on theperimeter of the group; step in towards them.) If the story involves cheating, 9 out of 10 women will have an immediate response and it will spark an interesting conversation.
You could say…
“My friend Mike is dating this girl and somehow she found out the code for the voicemail on his phone.
She checked his voicemail and heard a message from some other girl, telling Mike it was great to see him the other day and she wants to see him again soon, yada yada. So, Mike’s girlfriend confronted him about it. He told her the message was totally innocent, it was an old friend that he used to go to school with and they ran into each other on the street. Just a friend that’s all. Mike was actually pretty upset with his girlfriend for checking his voicemail, he felt it was an invasion of his privacy. So my question is, do you think she had the right to check his voicemail? I mean, would you go checking your boyfriend’s voicemail if you found out his code?”
Get the opinions of the group and let it flow. If the purpose of your approach was to get to know one of the girls in the group, don’t make it obvious who your target is. Talk to them as a group, and after the conversation flows for a couple of minutes, introduce yourself by name and get their names. Then you can start subtly shifting your attention towards the girl you are interested in.
Also notice that with the above approach, you are not asking permission to get their perspective. You didn’t say, “excuse me, do you mind if I ask you a question?” Or, “do you mind giving me your female perspective on something?” When you ask permission, you’re giving her the opportunity to turn you down and women often will, rather than taking a chance on granting a stranger permission to enter their personal space. So instead of asking permission, you mention how you need to get back to something in a second.