“Teases” are a powerful Mack technique. Throw out stories or comments that imply that you’re a man in demand, with high standards: “The girls I’ve dated recently have been super high-maintenance. They looked great, but they were always complaining and had all kinds of drama. It’s cool to meet a normal girl, like yourself, who I can relax around.”
This statement has a subconscious effect. While it sounds on the surface like you’re paying her a compliment that she’s a “normal” person you’re actually jabbing her ego and making her feel self-conscious.
You’re implying that you usually date hot women, but hey, you’re still enjoying her company at the moment. By using this method, as you continue to control the conversation, she’s going to feel the need to qualify herself to you.
She’ll want to show she’s not just a boring “normal” girl…she’s fun and sexy, too.
Think Push/Pull. Punishment/Reward. Throw challenges at her. Make her wonder if she measures up to your standards, and get her thinking, “If this guy has such high standards, and is so hard to impress, he must be something special.”
Another one:
“I plan on staying out late tonight and having some fun, but I don’t want to get you into any trouble…I can tell you’re a nice, responsible type of girl who’s probably got a curfew.” Or this one, which will really catch her by surprise: “It’s too bad you’re not my type, you seem like a cool person.” (Then, immediately change the subject.)
Again, you’ve paid her a compliment (she “seems cool”), but you’ve made her feel self-conscious because for some unknown reason, she’s “not your type.” Don’t explain why you said it; just plant that seed and move on.
Here’s a quick one. In mid-conversation, as she’s saying something, say “One sec, I need to ask my friend something” and then abruptly walk away. Rejoin her a couple of minutes later and let her keep going with what she was saying. Slightly impolite, yes…but you’re sending the signal that you’ve got other people to attend to, and that she’s not impressive enough to warrant 100% of your attention.
Remember: when you approach a girl, you’re not going to let her radar kick into high gear and start screening you for defects. You’re going to establish that YOU are the one with high standards, who’s giving HER the chance to join your team.
More examples of tests, always keeping push/pull in mind:
Mention a cool spot in your town that most people aren’t aware of. It could be an out-of-the-way bar, a live music spot, a restaurant, a mountain you hiked…whatever. Ask her if she’s been there. If she says “yes,” then pull her in. If she says “no,” then push her away: “Wow, Lisa, you’ve never tried Thai food? I don’t know if this is going to work out between us. It’s a good thing you met me, though I can show you a lot of really cool places to eat.”
Or, you could say:
“I get the sense that you’ve done a lot of traveling. People who’ve been to different countries and seen different cultures, they have a deeper perspective on things, don’t you think? ” If it turns out she has done a lot of traveling, then continue to push and pull: “That’s good to know. I wasn’t sure about you at first, Maria, but maybe I misjudged you.”
If she admits that she hasn’t done much traveling, you can “push” her by acting like you’re not up her standards…and then “pull” her back to you. “You mean to tell me you’ve never been outside of this country? Well, you should just know, before we get married and have kids, you and me are going to spend some time in Buenos Aires. It’s my favorite city.”
That was also an example of the “instant relationship” tactic acting like the two are you are already a couple. You say it with a smile, but you’re sending the message that the two of you are obviously going to wind up together, and you’re starting to make her feel comfortable with this idea.
