It’s been said that 20% of how the humans interact is via words, and about 80% is the non-verbal part: body gestures, voice tone, voice pitch, and eye contact. So, you need to know how to control these aspects of your game.

Body Language – Whenever women are watching, you should move in a slow, relaxed manner. Push your chest out a bit and lift your chin so it is parallel to the floor.

Remember before, when I talked about how our “primal brains” register signals? Well, we’re programmed to hide our throats when we are feeling scared or nervous it’s a defensive posture.

Guys who are nervous around women tend to do this. And women “read” this body language as being weak. Approach them this way, and their stress levels will instinctively rise. They’re looking for a guy who makes them feel safe and secure in their presence, not a guy who looks like he is trying to avoid a beating.

Also, use open body language: keep your hands out of your pockets and don’t hold a drink against your chest. (Guys do this all the time in bars, without consciously realizing how “closed off” they seem to other people. When a woman reads you as “closed,” she’s going to think that you’re nervous and uncomfortable not a good look!)

BONUS BODY LANGUAGE TIP: When you approach a girl and talk to her, notice her body language and watch for changes. It can go from closed to receptive, and then you’ll know you are making progress and moving things in the right direction.

Women have “alpha” behaviors of their own that they display when they are trying to attract a mate. Is she pushing her chest out slightly, making her breasts more presentable? Is she showing off cleavage? Another sign of interest is when a woman exposes her palms or wrists to you.

She might do this while sitting across from you; she could be gently stroking the stem of her wine glass. This is strong “open” body language, meaning she trusts you and is inviting you in. (This is a great time to gently take her hand in yours and do a palm read.)

Is she doing anything with her hair: flipping it back, touching it, running her fingers through it? Does she straighten up her clothes in any way as you are talking to her? Or, maybe she excuses herself to go the bathroom, and when she comes back, you can tell that she fixed herself up and applied some lip gloss. This type of “preening” behavior (birds do this, too) is another signal that she is trying to attract you as a mate.

The most obvious sign of her interest is if she touches you or playfully “hits” you when you make a joke or tease her. (This is one reason why you want to tease her to invite her touch.) This is an uncontrolled sexual response; she is acting in these ways subconsciously. These mating behaviors are hard-wired into us.

Don’t be discouraged if she displays closed body language at first (crossing her arms, pursing her lips, etc.) This is probably the behavior she shows to any guy who approaches her out of the blue. You can “break down” her defenses by using the techniques in this article, and as her body language shifts from closed to open, you’ll know that they are working.

Tone of Voice – This is another important part of an effective approach. Ideally, your voice should be low and bass. (Whatever you think of Vin Diesel’s abilities as an actor, women find the guy very sexy. I came to realize that Vin’s voice, not his muscles, is his most attractive quality.The guy sounds like he has gravel stuck in his throat, and he speaks slowwwwwly. It’s sort of an extreme example, but I want to point out that a low, deep voice is a powerfully attractive quality because it suggests high testosterone.

If you have a high-pitched voice, work on it. Make it a habit to speak slower and inject pauses. Of course, if you’re talking about boring stuff and asking predictable questions, speaking slowly and using pauses will only cause her to find a way to excuse herself but if you combine this technique with effective conversation, as the Mack Tactics program explains, you’ll have women hanging on your every word.

Eye Contact – Eye Contact is another powerful tool for conveying confidence, and making a woman feel sexual attraction. It may be the difference between getting the girl or not. Imagine you’re James Bond, looking at the girl. You should be slightly smiling, signaling that you are not dangerous, while looking in a deep way, minimizing your eyes a bit.

Smile – Always smile when opening. Don’t attempt to look serious and “cool.” If you need to walk from a short distance to approach the girl, smile as you make your way towards her and maintain eye contact.