You can also include a Tease in your Flirt Opener or a minute or two into the conversation to spice things up and create some sexual tension. By the way, the word “tension” is normally not a good thing; it means the situation is uncomfortable. Sexual tension is different. It means there is electricity in the air.

She’s curious about you, but she’s not sure if you like her. Or, you’ve been flirting with her and building body contact, and she wants the contact to escalate but you ease back and stop touching her for a while.

This makes her want your touch more. Or, you’ve engaged her in a conversation and she assumes you’re interested in her, but then you make an offhand comment that makes her think maybe she’s not your type. (Which will make her want to prove to you that she is desirable, and you should want her.)

That’s sexual tension, or as I also call it, using “push-pull” to drive up her attraction.

Here are some comments you can make to build this tension. They should be spoken in a playful manner:

 (To a tall girl) “I’m not usually into short girls, but you are really sexy.”

(To a short girl) “I’m not really into tall girls, but there’s something about you I find very attractive.”

“You’re really sexy and really cool, but I bet you are horrible in bed.”

“You’re sexy, but I can tell you’re not a very good kisser.”

“Oh, you’re from the Midwest? So you must be a total prude.”

“I love those shoes…if we end up having sex tonight, you are leaving those on.”

“You’re really cute, but I can already tell you’re too much of a nice girl for me.”

“You’re from the South? Okay, so you probably still have a funny 1950s attitude towards boys and sex, right?”

“You’re so cool, but we could never be boyfriend-girlfriend. It would last exactly one month…maybe two…and it’d be nothing but fights and makeup sex.”

“It’s probably a good thing we don’t live in the same city. We’d be having sex, like, 5 times a day. How would I get any work done?”