Quick story: I was at a bar the other night with a buddy of mine, Jay, who is extremely successful with women, and his style is to be very flirty and sexual.
He introduced himself to this very hot girl named Sarah by saying (with a smile), “I hope you don’t have a boyfriend lurking around her somewhere, because I’ve been wanting to flirt with you since I saw you walk in.” Then he launched into one of the conversational routines that I’d taught him, and started chatting with her and teasing her.
She got swept up in his positive energy and was having fun. Then he glanced down at her shows and said, “By the way, those shoes are awesome. If we wind up having sex later, you’ve got to keep those on. So anyway, as I was saying…”
I have to admit, I was a bit shocked by what Jay just slipped into the conversation!
But as he explained to me the next day (after having banged the girl several times), his style of approach and flirting works for him because it’s congruent with his confident vibe, and he knows how to keep the conversation moving.
If he’d been fidgeting nervously and avoiding eye contact while telling her to wear her shoes during sex, he would have come off like a creepy weirdo and possibly gotten a drink thrown in his face.
By the way, Jay stands 5’7” tall and has thinning hair. But he studied pickup, especially Mack Tactics, and figured out a style of flirting with women that works for him.
Because the girl had been enjoying herself, and he had demonstrated that he didn’t take any of this too seriously, that line made her laugh and tingle with excitement! She punched him on the arm lightly (an indicator of her sexual interest) and scolded him, but obviously she was loving every minute. His confidence and playfulness was so unusual. She found it stimulating.
Anyway, Jay ended up bringing her home that night and having sex with her several times even though she had two friends at the bar with her! When Sarah’s friends came over and said “it’s getting late, we should go” (attempting to cock-block), Sarah said to them “I’m going to stay here, I’ll call you tomorrow.”
Jay had isolated a very hot chick from her posse of friends an extremely difficult thing for most guys to do. Why? Because she was having fun with him.
Now, in order to get her into bed a few hours later, my buddy had to “escalate” and move the conversational tone from playful flirting to the idea of having great sex with him tonight. I can’t cover that whole process with just one article but if you want to learn exactly how to get a woman into bed the first night you meet her, read my next articles.
