The average guy feels awkward about approaching girls because he worries his opening lines will sound obvious and cliché. He doesn’t have anything clever to say and knows he’ll have to resort to something along the lines of “So, do you come here often?”  Once you’ve made your three-point intro, you can start the conversation with a simple question along those lines. The trick lies in how you phrase it. We refer to this concept as “Creative Phrasing.” This means re-wording the question so that it sounds fresh and original, and prompts her to give thoughtful response.

If she’s well dressed this could be as simple as a nice-fitting pair of jeans compliment her on her outfit. Attractive women take great care with their appearance. If you spent two hours at the mall shopping for the outfit you’ve got on, and spent an hour getting your hair just right, wouldn’t you want to be noticed? Wouldn’t it feel nice to have a stranger recognize the time and effort you put into how you look? There is no reason to feel shy about paying a girl an original compliment.

The key is to be specific. If she’s wearing an eye-catching skirt, blouse, or shoes, or has an stylish purse, single out that aspect and compliment it. Never compliment her on how beautiful she is. That is a deadly cliché which attractive women hear on a daily basis from over-aggressive guys. Tell her she has great style instead. No woman ever gets tired of hearing that.   Attach a question to the compliment, and you’ll open the door to conversation. “I just wanted to tell you that I noticed your outfit. I love that color on you. I’m just curious where did you get that dress?”

If the girl is fashion-conscious, which is very likely the case, then it’s a subject she enjoys talking about. Chances are she’ll tell you where she bought it. If she wonders why you asked, tell her you need to shop for a birthday present for a girl you work with, and thought that the item you noticed (purse, skirt, shoes, etc.) might be a good gift.   This compliment/question accomplishes a number of things. You’re showing that you noticed a specific detail about her, while most guys only stare at her body; that you appreciate good style; and that you have female friends, and are thoughtful enough to buy them birthday gifts. What woman would be turned off by those qualities?

Now that the door is open to a conversation, you’re going to act casual and nonchalant. But remember, everything you say from this point forward is calculated. You are going to pose questions, give answers, and guide the conversation with an “invisible hand.”   If you are in a nightclub/bar, do not offer to buy her a drink at this stage. It may seem like the natural thing to do, but it’s too soon for you to lay out cash.

First, you need to get things flowing and determine whether this girl, regardless of how good she looks, is worth your time and money.   You are the Mack, and the Mack is the one in charge of the encounter.  Adopt the mindset that it is yours to continue, or cancel. You can always move on to the next.