This is the core of M.A.C.K. Tactics, a set of principles that were literally gained through blood, sweat and tears on the battlefield the kind where bullets fly, instead of Cupid’s arrows. Here we’ll explain the powerful connection between Hostage Negotiation and the art of Macking.

The Negotiator is a calming, non-threatening presence. He conveys the sense that he is the hostage taker’s ally, the one person in the world who is willing to listen and make sure everything works out. But the Negotiator is always the one in control. He’s like an actor who has memorized the script; he already knows how it’s going to end, it’s just a matter of steering it there.

Now let’s put this in Mack terms. If you’re the Negotiator, and the female you’re scoping is the hostage taker, who’s the hostage? The answer is their confidence. The bottom line is that women have kidnapped our testicles and  their demands worked out.

We, as men, are eager to recapture our confidence from them. So we acquiesce to their demands in small ways when we first meet them, and in profound ways once we’re committed to a relationship or marriage. Surrendering is always easier than standing your ground.

As most men know, the demands of women never cease. (Just ask the married guys.) Often, women don’t even need to verbalize their demands; men rush to provide them with whatever they might want. We shell out money for their drinks. We take them out on dates, wining and dining them and trying to play the perfect gentleman. We listen to them complain about trivial problems. And we do it all wearing a phony smile, figuring if we endure enough nonsense, and jump through enough hoops, maybe she’ll give us some sex.

The Mack doesn’t play this game. He deals with women like a Negotiator deals with a hostage taker: operating from a playbook, using strategies to achieve his end goal no matter how long it takes. He’ll do what it takes to win the encounter, and has the patience and self-discipline to see his plan through.

If you initiate an encounter with a woman but she’s got her “bitch shield” on high alert, throwing up barriers and being standoffish, approach it the way a Hostage Negotiator would. Have two options firmly planted in your mind. It’s  going to work out one of two ways:

Option #1: She may have issues going on in her life right now, but you’re going to find ways to get past them. You’re going to break down the barriers so the two of you can have a good time together.

Option #2: Even after making your best attempt, you are unable to reach a happy medium with her. For whatever reason, she just isn’t interested in building a bridge with you. No hard feelings.

The two of you will go your separate ways, and you’ll work your magic on someone who is more deserving of your time and energy. You also know that even during that brief encounter, you were able to practice your Tactics and note a detail or two that adds to your overall knowledge of women. Empower yourself with these thoughts. Forget about rejection; there is no such thing. There is your Option A (you hook up with her), and Option B (she’s not worth your energy, so you’ll go mack someone else).