The “higher up” women perceive you to be on this Dominance Scale, the more attractive you will be to them.
She might tell herself (and her friends) that she’s only into tall guys, or rich guys, or guys who look like UFC fighters. But if she perceives you to have high social status, you will make her feel attraction. This happens automatically and subconsciously!
Dating guru David DeAngelo, author of “Double Your Dating,” is fond of saying “Attraction Is Not A Choice.”
This is true for men and women. If we see a 21-year-old stunner with a killer body and a face like the actress Megan Fox, we’re attracted. End of story. And when women meet a guy who radiates high social status, they’re attracted. It’s Not A Choice!
On the highest levels of the Male Dominance Scale are people like rock stars, famous politicians, professional athletes, etc.
In my career as a journalist, I’ve hung out with these types of people on many occasions.
They tend to radiate complete confidence and self-control. You can feel it when you are in the presence of someone with extremely high social status. It’s like they know they’re “the shit.” They’ve got nothing to prove to anyone. They don’t need to call attention to themselves, and they don’t have to raise their voices. When they talk, people listen.
This is the basic reason why women are so attracted to “bad boys.” I’ve received many emails from guys who ask me why women seem to go for “jerks” instead of “nice guys.” There are a number of reasons, but the big one is that bad boys usually have high social status. Their social circle looks up to them. They command respect from people. They don’t worry about impressing women; they are the ones who are difficult to impress, because they act like they’ve seen and done it all. They don’t seek approval and validation.
It doesn’t matter whether he’s the drummer in a mega-famous rock band, or the bouncer at your local strip club. If he acts unaffected by the opinions of other people and is respected and admired by his social group, women are going to notice that guy and want to know him.
I will assume you are not in a famous rock band; nor are you a biker or a bouncer. Still, you can communicate high social status among your peer group.
When a guy with high status goes out to socialize, he is almost always with a group of friends or associates, but he is clearly the “leader of the tribe.” He is the AMOG (Alpha Male Of the Group). When the group enters a venue, he is the one who is personally welcomed by the doorman/ bouncer/ manager/waitress/etc.
He decides where the group will sit, and he chooses his seat first. He is the one who interacts with the waitress, and places the order for the group. He either leads the conversation, or acts disinterested in the conversation and switches the topic.
The others watch the AMOG and take their cues from him. The group feeds off of his energy. If he looks bored, their energy level lowers to match his. If he’s socializing and having a great time, the other guys follow his lead. He decides when it’s time for the group to move across the room and scout out some ladies, or head towards the dance floor. He decides when to pay the check and go to the next spot, and when they make their exit, he leads the way.
Many evenings, I’ve been in clubs in Las Vegas when a celebrity starts making his way through the crowd. He immediately captures the attention of all the women in the area. Right then, they instinctively want to know that guy and in many cases, they have no idea who he is! They can just tell that he’s someone famous or important, based on the impressed reaction of the people who do recognize him. And that’s enough to flip a woman’s “attraction switch.” This is man who appears to have dominant social status.
With guys who are on the extreme high end of the Dominance Scale due to their fame or wealth, meeting women might be easy. But you’d be surprised at how many of these guys have no game and wind up going home alone or paying for a hooker!
I’ve witnessed this at the clubs of Las Vegas, New York City and Los Angeles. When I go out, I usually bring along a couple of very attractive female friends. Sometimes my friend wind up being hit on by celebrities. I’ve found that women enjoy hanging around famous dudes because they want to bask in the limelight and make other people feel they must be important, by extension, but if Joe Celebrity doesn’t have tight game, he will lose out to the “regular” guy who does have game.
Think of it this way: if all the hotshot pro athletes, rockers and actors did have game, then why are they constantly getting married, divorced, and getting taken to the cleaners by gold-digging parasites? It’s because they have the status and the money but they can’t back it up with true game.
In their own minds, they’re still the guy who couldn’t find a girlfriend before they got rich and famous. And now that they are rich and famous, they’re even more scared about approaching random women because getting shot down would feel even more painful and humiliating.
When it comes down to it, they are as insecure and needy around beautiful women as most regular guys, and they screw things up. I’m here to tell you, you can get laid more consistently than a lot of famous guys, with none of the unpleasant side effects and I’m going to show you how.