There are all kinds of ways for women to say “no” and a million different reasons for them to say it, whether you’re trying to get a phone number, or inviting them to share a bottle of wine back at your pad. This is why during the conversation, you should plant seeds that will negate any of her doubts and concerns. In M.A.C.K. Tactics, this is known as taking Pre-Emptive Actions.

Let’s say you’re on a first date, having dinner with a girl, and your goal is to bring her back to your place afterwards. During the dinner conversation, here are some things you could mention:

• Your house is just a short drive from the restaurant
• You keep your place very clean, not like most “bachelor pads”
•  You live alone, which you prefer because it gives you total privacy
• Tell her about an item at your house which you’d love to show her sometime.

By mentioning these things earlier in the evening, when it’s time to get her back to your place, a bunch of her potential concerns have already been eliminated. Another concern women have is that because it’s only the first date, or the first time they met you, they should take things slow. You can plant seeds to eliminate this concern as well. Once you start vibing and discover you have things in common with her, say “It’s funny, I feel like we’ve known each other a long time. Do you feel the same way?”

Even though you just met her recently, you’re creating an impression in her mind that it doesn’t feel that way. If things get to the hot-and-heavy stage, she might shut you down with the statement, “Sex is special to me.” Again, this form of “no” can be avoided by laying down groundwork earlier in the evening. Reinforce in her mind that she is special to you, and you are doings things for her that you don’t normally do with women.

When taking her to a restaurant, say “This restaurant is one of my special places, I don’t usually bring people here.” Or mention, “My house is like my sanctuary, I almost never have guests over.” This way, when she winds up back at your place, it feels like a special occasion. Make her feel like a VIP in your world.