Self-help guru Anthony Robbins often talks about how your choice of words can affect your mental state and mean the difference between succeeding and failing. Be especially conscious of the words you use when speaking about your problems, or other negative subjects. In fact, stop using the word “problem” altogether. The better word to use is challenge. Poor phrasing: “Going…

If you’re like most guys and the thought of “cold approaching” a hot girl causes you to feel some anxiety and dread, then you’ve got to reframe the way you view approaching women. In a sense, you’ve got to “reprogram” yourself. It’s not as difficult to do as you might think. If you’ve ever practiced and committed yourself to get…

Before we jump into the specifics of approach, let’s see where you measure up on the Approacher Scale. My friend, the highly respected dating coach Carlos Xuma, says there are five different levels of Approachers. See which level would describe you, and this will help you to determine which areas you need to work on the most. Phase One: This…

Quick story: I was at a bar the other night with a buddy of mine, Jay, who is extremely successful with women, and his style is to be very flirty and sexual. He introduced himself to this very hot girl named Sarah by saying (with a smile), “I hope you don’t have a boyfriend lurking around her somewhere, because I’ve…

Playfulness, fun and positivity. This is huge with women. If you’re the type of person who dwells on negative thoughts and has a sarcastic, self-deprecating sense of humor (which is how I used to be), leave that shit at home. You’ve got to convey positive energy when you talk to women. You are not going to bond with high-quality women…